I’ve been out of the hospital for just over a week now, and I’m slowly getting better.
Somewhat ironically, the best way to describe how I feel now would be to compare it to morning (mourning, now, more like it) sickness.
I can’t eat much. When I do eat, nothing sounds very appealing. After I eat, I occasionally regret it.
It’s not pain, so much as never-ending queasiness.
But I lied, because there’s also pain. One of my doctors explained it best, I think, when she compared pancreatitis to having your body fill up with leaking battery acid. My back aches most of the day, so I stay glued to a bottle of Advil and a heating pad, and there a small area along my abdomen that feels numb, tingly, and sort of dead.
And I haven’t figured out why, or how, but every night, between 4-6 a.m., I wake up totally nauseous and unable to fall back asleep.
It’s a real pretty picture, isn’t it?
I miss just feeling normal. Not even good — just normal. Just going to bed and waking up in the morning. Or grabbing any food and eating it without being terrified of how my body will react.
So, I’m nowhere near 100% yet, but I’m so much better than I was a week, and two weeks ago, it’s insane.
Emotionally, I’m a dumpster fire.
The initial relief of finding out I’m not allowed to do any more rounds of IVF has been replaced by heart wrenching grief that we’ll never have another child. And then I feel guilty, because I have Gus, and he’s perfect, and I shouldn’t be greedy. And then Gus wraps himself around me and tells me how much he loves me, and oh boy, here come the waterworks again.
And then people tell me they’d carry a baby for me, and I think ok yes! but also, how in the world can you ask someone to do such a huge favor? And I pepper my friends with adopted brothers and sisters with overly personal questions. And then I wonder if I can try again, without estrogen? Is that even a thing? And then I get exhausted, and cry some more, and can’t think about it anymore.
See? Dumpster fire.
Silver lining? Between my two hospitalizations in November, and the limited recovery diet/forced starvation treatment for pancreatitis, I’ve lost almost 25 pounds, and counting.
So it’s not all bad.